Thankful Is Never About Love: Is It?
Thankful is never about love.
Of course “it is.”
In fact, Amie G. PH. D says, “Stop taking your partner for granted and start being grateful.”
Well she didn’t say thankful, but we did and grateful is close enough. Besides they’re changeable adjectives.
Great advice. So, why don’t we take it? Because it’s just that advice and “not a proven fact.”
Good For Me. I disagree.
Because taking each other for granted is toxic, not intoxicating. Well then maybe being a bit more thankful is the cure. But for who?
Thankfully For ALL OF US!
In fact, today mindfulness, thankfulness, and gratitude is everywhere in the news as being a healthy choice. Most are science-based insights for a meaningful life.
Of course, better sleep, digestion, and mood is also a good neighbor of thankfulness. Let’s face it, Grumbling Street is not a healthy place to live.
So, how thankful are you? Couples say they felt close when rating a 7.
“There’s nothing new about that,” you sneer.
“Does everybody really have to be thankful?” you mock.
“NO, but you’re more likely to be in a relationship one year later if you are,” I snicker.
However, we’ll just take one year at a time. Although, over a life-time it adds up. So, maybe now’s a good time to move to THANKSGIVING AVENUE.
“So then, what is a truly thankful relationship all about?” you scoff.
Good question. Recognizing the best traits and ignoring the bad ones.
“Well, no-dah,” you squeak.
Well, after the bliss wears off we’re apt to do the opposite. In fact, thankful couples prompt desire much more easily than couples who don’t.
Now that’s motive.
Both are key for prompting and maintaining intimacy. Which is the number one reason for being thankful in the first place.
BINGO!
First on the list, feeling valued. Then, came listening. Next, more engaging conversations.
Who wouldn’t want that?
Finally, the ongoing cycle of resent, neglect, and the aura of unhappiness left when couples put on a happy face.
Ah-HA MOMENT
When relationships are going SOUTH, it’s hard to find TRUE NORTH. The qualities or behaviors you wish your partner had, become restaurant specials. No substitutions.
finding a partner can be a serious occupation. But add in thankful and you’ll have it made.
So, as the day of love passes on. Change your outlook and connect.
Then try a bit of Soup & Sex.